I have a few thoughts on this issue after I blew up the rear end on my 1.6 early last season.
1) It's not the diff that is fragile, it's the ring and pinnion. I don't think I've ever heard of the diff itself failing.
2) I'm pretty sure the fluid doesn't degrade after one race weekend. I don't know how much protection you're really buying by changing it that often.
3) After I shreaded the ring and pinion in mine, I had it rebuilt with new bearings and seals (same diff). No issues a full season later.
4) I use the redline lightweight shockproof oil and change it every 3-4 weekends. The key is to use the shockproof stuff, not just regular redline diff fluid. This was the recommendation from the guy who rebuilt my diff. I know of a few people who run the redline medium shockproof oil. The stuff is opaque and light blue in color for the lightweight. I believe red in color for the medium.
5) My faliure only occured after an incident on track where a guy punted me while I was at full throttle. I believe the unloading then reloading of the driveline chipped a tooth, because I picked up a vibration after the hit. Three turns later and I was done.
-Marc
With 20+ 1.6 diffs out there and only two failures in 10+ years, I surely agree with your 1, 2, and 5. For your #3, you don't mention how the carrier was "rebuilt". New ring/pinion? All new carrier? Low mile carrier? Frankly, I don't know if #4 matters, but I feel that with proper setup, it falls out of the equation. I tell my friends/customers to run Redline 75W-90NS (NS! NS!) so they can add LSD slickifier to suit. Once the clutches are too slick, it is hard to get them grabbing again without fairly dramatic measures. Nothing to do with the clutches at all, I've yet to seen any clutches "wear" beyond 0.001" or so.
The ring and pinion are where the failure manifests, BUT the true root cause (when it is the "fault" of the diff setup and not a situation like your #5) most often starts with a loss of preload on the side bearings. The side bearing housings "creep" over time, and if you simply set the diff up per the FSM, you will mostly likely fail the R/P unless you are using an all-new carrier.
With or without a new carrier, I recommend a teardown 6-12 weekends after the rebuilt/setup, inspect the preload and compare to the initial numbers, and do not let the preload fall near zero. I cannot stress enough that the FSM specs are not only worthless for a used carrier, but will lead you astray.
Look at that old pinion, and you may be able to see whether the faracture started on the coast or drive side. One of my "dead soldiers" was my own 60+ weekend 1.6 diff. I came off the grass backwards with the engine stalled and in gear and hit pavement. The diff failed in the next session, and showed obvious signs of the fracture beginning on the COAST side of the pinion. The 1.6 diff just can't live through that kind of abuse.
But - with proper setup, a 1.6 can last longer than most of the car, and it is still the "fastest" 1.6 diff, in my opinion.
The other 1.6 diff issue we can't fix without "cheating" is the crush sleeve. If the diff fails because the pinion starts to "wobble", it isn't the diff builder's fault - most likely the driver is one who does a lot of braking with the clutch ENGAGED, and the constant corkscrewing has collapsed the crush sleeve.
If you find pinion wobble at the input shaft, TAKE THE DIFF OUT. Or, if you must, retorque it, although this is NOT a good idea or a permanent fix.