OK, Drago forwarded me your email me on this but I am just now catching up on here for the context.
Dare I ask, was this a 99+ trans?
I have ZERO hard proof, but some suspicion/correlation (not causation, I know, I know, I know) that the 99+ countershaft is "softer". Also, it seems like the modern "crate" transmissions (no VIN plate) fail sooner than anything else. I only know enough to be dangerous about gear processing and treatment, but I know that the surface has to be hard and the middle and root has to be "tough".
I agree that driving habits can fix every problem noted in this thread, but I do still get some satisfaction out of analysing failed parts (I have a metallurgist friend that works for beer and compliments, and all of our SM problems are more interesting than his day job!)
If anyone sends me failed gears, failed shafts, failed anything, I will test them if I can and post whatever I have learned (or think I have learned) here. If you want the results to be "confidential" as to what driver or builder last touched the parts, I'm happy to honor that.