Have you checked cam timing?
When I hold the rpm's at 3k the car still stutters, which I don't believe could be caused by cam timing?
If as stated all the exaust manifold tubes are the same temp then the spark plug may be an oily red herring with respect to the main issue, but still needs to be resolved. Also, I don't recall it sounding like it was running on 3 cylinders which is quite distinctive and would be obvious when you drive it.
When I say same temp, not exactly the same but no obvious temperature differences. And yes, the car felt fine under power tonight up in the mountains which tells me the cylinder is still firing.